🥰🔥💋 Science-backed habits for better romance 🥰🔥💋
Why do some couples seem to keep the home fires burning while the embers grow dim for others?
You know who they are…. the couple down the street that still walks holding hands like newlyweds. They seem to be doing something right. How do they do it?
Today, I’ll share with you a few unexpected habits that have nothing to do with your relationship, and can help any couple regain their romantic mojo 💝💋🔥
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There are plenty of obvious reasons why some couples lose their intimacy mojo over time: too much stress, too much conflict, too many health issues. But there are also plenty of healthy people in otherwise healthy relationships who aren’t getting their fair share of lovin’.
What’s separating the sexually successful from the challenged? Take a look at these unexpected habits and see how they can help you 🥰
Sex-cessful couples DRINK a lot
Not booze - water. Water makes up 75% of the total body weight of newborns, but as we age, that percentage drops; in adults it can be 50% or lower. And that can impact our health, AND our sex lives.
Proper hydration is critical to the cardiovascular system, which is responsible for keeping nutrients and oxygen flowing throughout the body. Even mild dehydration can impact a man's ability to achieve an erection, and for women, it can cause issues with vaginal lubrication and genital arousal.
Keep a water bottle nearby to sip on throughout the day; reduce your alcohol intake, as that can further dehydrate you; and incorporate water-rich fruits and vegetables into your meals and snacks.
Sex-cessful couples make their BED daily
Clutter can sneak up on you, causing stress that you might not even be aware of. One study found that cortisol levels in women with cluttered homes rose during the day and stayed high when the clutter remained.
Another study looked at the relationship between clutter and procrastination and found that adults with clutter problems tend to report a significant decrease in life satisfaction.
Making your bed first thing in the morning gives you a sense of control that can help reduce the feeling of being a victim of chaos. Better yet, try making it together.
Sex-cessful couples AVOID late-night sweets
Many of us enjoy a good after-dinner treat. But watch out, dessert and that midnight-snack could be a problem.
Eating sugar before bed causes insulin release and can temporarily suppressed testosterone levels. Remember driving home, looking forward to making love, and you can’t keep your eyes open? Anyone who has felt a crash after a sugar high will understand this effect. This can make you feel sluggish and sleepy, which can tamper with your arousal.
If you're hungry before bed, opt for something less sugary, like cheese, some nuts, or a piece of dark chocolate. Avoid processed treats, desserts, alcohol and and sugar-sweetened beverages in the hours leading up to bed.
Sex-cessful couples WORK their muscles
Working out increases sexual arousal in women and helps combat erectile dysfunction in men. But more important, exercise – especially vigorous exercise that stimulates our muscles – is critical to our libidos.
When we exercise, the stress on our muscles stimulates the hypothalamus to produce sex hormones. It stimulates an effect that goes through our pituitary to our adrenal glands to start building those precursors to testosterone, estrogen and progesterone. Without that stimulation, our brains never get the signal that it's time for lovin’.
It is recommended that you get at least 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week, 75 minutes of vigorous intensity exercise or a combination of both, adding in resistance or weight training several days a week. But don't overdo it; one study found that men who engage in intense endurance training for long periods of time had reduced libido's.
Sex-cessful couples SOAK up the sun
As we've talked about in the past, you know about the importance of vitamin D, especially when we live where the winters can be intense and we spend a lot of time indoors.
But did you know that a lack of vitamin D might be interfering with your love life? Low vitamin D has been linked to decreased erectile and orgasmic function, as well as diminished sexual desire. Vitamin D supplements in winter can help.
Additional research has found that supplementing with vitamin D can improve sexual function in mood and women with low vitamin D levels.
If you prefer getting your vitamin D from being outdoors, remember that you also need to protect yourself. The median age of people receiving a melanoma diagnosis is 66.
Sex-cessful couples use the BEDROOM - for sleeping
According to a study, women who sleep an extra hour a night experience more sexual desire the next day and a 14% increase the likelihood of having sex. Maybe it's because their partners are better rested also.
Not getting enough sleep has been linked to erectile dysfunction and a lack of testosterone in men. A lot of your hormones and sex hormones are actually produced during good sleep. Aim for at least 7 to 9 hours per night; anything under six on a regular basis could be setting you up for trouble.
Something you've probably heard before: don't bring your smart phone to bed. A study looked at the bedroom habits of 2000 adults and found that 35% of respondents said their sex life had been impacted by bedtime phone use. The phone acts as a barrier to intimacy by distracting attention away from your partner, creating distance between you. Great sex needs both people to be present and focused on each other 🥰
THE BOTTOM LINE
“Love has no age, no limit; and no death.”
“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”
“If grass can grow through cement, love can find you at every time in your life.”
To recap, several things that sex-cessful couples do:
Get adequate levels of vitamin D to improve sexual desire
Avoid late night sweets that affect arousal
Drink a lot of water for better genital performance
Make the bed daily to decrease stress
Get exercise to stimulate their libidos
Get 7 to 9 hours of sleep for sex hormone production
Stay present and focused on each other in the bedroom
Hopefully these tips will have you canoodling, like the best of romantic couples, in no time. If these tips don't help, there may be other health-related issues involved. Yes, I’ve helped many couples figure out low libido health issues….
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